The Trident of Clemency

I admit it, I watched Lance Armstrong’s admission of guilt last night with Oprah Winfrey.

While I was not particularly interested in watching the interview to understand all the whys and wherefores of his cheating, his colossal asshole personality and his arrogance which seemed to know no bounds, I was more interested in watching him closely, his facial expressions, his eyes and watching the body language of apology and admittance in general.

My verdict: I think he’s sorry he got caught. I think he’s sorry that his name will forever be in the mud now. I think he’s sorry how much he’s screwed up his legacy and the sport of professional bike racing. I think he’s sorry that he’s no longer on the A-list and won’t be able to bed Hollywood actresses as easily as he used to. In short, I think he’s sorry for what he did but I don’t think he’s sorry for who he is and what he became as a man and*that’s* the problem for me. I didn’t get any sense of genuine remorse and sincere apology. I almost get the feeling he’s timed the whole thing because he has plans for something else and this apology and admitting is a necessary stepping-stone which needs to be over and done with so that he can move on to something else on his horizon. It seemed too mechanical, planned and rehearsed.

Kate Hudson and Lance about to smootch...

Actress Kate Hudson and Lance about to get smootchy.

In all honesty, I could really care less about Armstrong in general but it got me thinking about the nature of apology, forgiveness and redemption. We have all done and said things in the past which we’re not proud of, that’s a given. We’ve all had bad things happen to us by the hands and words of someone else, no doubt.

But when I watch “comeback” stories, people who have literally gone through the wringer for something they did or said, gone a few turns on the wheel of fortune, through a few levels of hell and come out on the other side, not only whole, but somehow wiser, kinder, more understanding, more authentic, there is one quality which seems to be the common denominator: Humility.

Ahem.

Ahem.

Humility also comes in the same territory as taking full responsibility for your actions, admitting what you did was wrong and then trying to make amends, I think. People, like the Lance Armstrongs of this world, seem to think that a “I’m sorry” is enough and walk away as if nothing happened. I guess it depends on the seriousness of the consequences of your actions but that’s like just saying “I’m sorry” to a mother after you plowed down her son while driving drunk. It just doesn’t cut the mustard.

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Amends also have to be made, not grudgingly but one of complete admission and humility. In my tiny opinion, it needs to come from a place of truth if it’s to mean anything. It’s a 3-prong process, admission, seeking forgiveness and making amends. Depending on the severity of the incident, sometimes these things take years to unfold. Unfortunately what I see nowadays is the sensationalizing of admission and some forgiveness but not much on the amends part.

the reverand Jimmy Swaggert crying his crocodile tears when he got caught with his pants down...literally.

The Reverand Jimmy Swaggert crying his crocodile tears when he got caught with his pants down…literally.

Canada’s Native and First Nations communities have come alive in recent weeks with the “Idle No More” movement. There have been blockages are strategic border crossings and rail-lines, all in support of Chief Theresa Spence’s hunger strike. She is asking for a face-to-face meeting with our horrible Prime Minister Stephen Harper to discuss the myriad of legitimate grievances which First Nations have put up with for far too long.

Right-wing, pro-oil, pro-cattle nut from Alberta (aka Texas North) VS Chief Spence

Right-wing, pro-oil, pro-cattle nut from Alberta (aka Texas North) VS Chief Spence

The trauma of residential schools, the humiliation of the Indian Act, a piece of legislation written up in times of racial and cultural ignorance and bigotry, that Canada’s rich natural resources are stolen, mined or sold and not a whit of the profits go back into these communities but rather, lines the pockets of corporate fat cats in Calgary and Toronto. Communities which often don’t have proper drinking water, among the highest suicide rates in the world and the lowest life expectancy rates in the West.

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Canada, along with countries like the US, Australia and New Zealand due to British and French imperial powers, along with what Spain did in places like Mexico and Peru, have yet to make proper amends to Aboriginal communities for the genocide, planned assimilation and deliberate ruin of those civilizations and cultures.

El Presidente!Hugo Chavez, Fidel castro and Evo Morales.

El Presidente!
Hugo Chavez, Fidel castro and Evo Morales.

Yet when a Hugo Chavez in Venezuela or an Evo Morales in Bolivia shows up (both leaders with Indigenous backgrounds incidentally) and decide to add extremely progressive and sensible legislation to their countries like considering the natural world a legal entity of its own with rights which need to be respected, they are written off as flakes or Marxist dreamers. A “sorry” here, a reservation there, a dinky treaty written under imperial laws and decrees, just doesn’t cut the mustard.

This culture of faux-apology is everywhere. One yoga instructor I heard about took advantage of his privileges as a yoga instructor and not in a good way. Things finally caught up to him with the unfortunate result that he lost many friends and business contacts. Sadly, despite the fact that he was a pretty good instructor from a technical point of view, he now has a bit of a questionable reputation among the more established yoga community. From what I understand he’s trying to get back his credibility but I don’t see that happening anytime soon. He never bothered with that 3-prong process I mentioned. (OK, I’m talking about  John Friend of Anusara Yoga fame and his attempted recent “comeback” called Shri Daiva Yoga.)

South Africa was able to get past it’s awful Apartheid past when they instituted the Truth and Reconciliation Commission under the moral leadership of Archbishop Desmond Tutu . The ANC offered amnesty to those who tortured or killed others under apartheid in exchange for admission and truth.

Happy dudes, Nelson Mandela and Archbishop Desmond Tutu

Happy dudes, Nelson Mandela and Archbishop Desmond Tutu

Is it that hard to take those same principles and apply in our own lives?

Here’s brilliant vlogger Jay Smooth taking Chris Brown to task for assaulting Rihanna a few years ago  and why he needs to get a grip on himself and why it’s NOT ok to play the victim when you knowingly did something wrong….

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12 thoughts on “The Trident of Clemency

  1. simian

    For the record the Truth and Reconciliation Commission in South Africa was an exercise in political expediency. Nothing more nothing less. Mandela and Tutu are not the saints the media likes to paint them out to be, they are but pawns in a game. They were used to usher in the ‘NWO aligned’ future political dispensation based on African styled totalitarianism. Don’t be deceived, South Africa’s Apartheid legacy has just been conveniently repackaged – nothing’s changed. You and I are all part of a cunning manipulation, the world has been duped. Sorry.

  2. simian

    Sorry I just thought of this song. Lance Armstrong, Nelson Mandela etc etc.

    • Thanks Simian, big Public Enemy fan here!
      It may very well be that personages like Mandela and Tutu are pawns for the NWO. I mean after all, South Africa is one of the most richest places on earth in terms of precious metals, gems and minerals. However, the Truth and Reconciliation Commission model is now being used in places like Rwanda and the residential school system hearings in Canada. True, it may amount to zero in real political and economic terms however I do think on a personal, emotional level, the act of bearing witness can help in the unburdening of guilt, the clearing of the conscience and at a minimum start the healing process on that personal level.

      • simian

        I agree, perhaps it depends on the individuals attitude. Best wishes.

      • What’s ironic about the TRC in Rwanda is that it caters to a certain segment of society hell bent on retaining power at all costs. I’m not totally sure that the mechanism lives up to the hype, especially when taking a deeper look at what’s happening in the country today (human rights violations, muzzling of media, encroachment on freedom of speech, incitement of violence in neighbouring countries, a rewriting of history and marginalization of certain groups). Bearing witness is great, but we need to be careful what we’re omitting if we don’t allow another the right to fully state their grievances/side of the story.

  3. Claude Genest

    Another great entry. Thanks. Small nuance: You CAN’T grow flowers from where the dirt USED to be; You can ONLY grow flowers from where the dirt IS ( unless you’re into hydroponics of course!)
    What we call dirt, nature calls fertility; What some call failure, others, as you point out, may come to call fertile growing experience.

  4. Alise

    Humility is a 5 pronged process… Knowing your error, feeling sorry, saying sorry, making amends if possible and never doing it again. All without gain or advantage. Not a common process!

  5. kezalu

    I didn’t watch the interview due to nil interest. Thanks for doing it for me. 😀

    By the sounds of it, another un-heartfelt, perfectly rehearsed piece of drivel written by someone else and probably fed through an earpiece. Let’s face it, he’s getting air time and drawing lots of attention. Famous or infamous – is there really a difference?

    • None, but he gets Oprah and her viewership since he’s a celebutard. He’s a classic example of apology and admission based on fake, contrived motivation as opposed to genuine redemption, something which has somehow become socially accepted.

  6. kezalu

    I like the recent story where the Spanish runner let his Kenyan opponent win a cross country race because he thought it was the right thing to do. The Kenyan had pulled up just short of the finish line, and the Spanish runner, who could have passed him and won, nudged him on the rest of the way. Now that’s true sportsmanship. I don’t suppose Oprah will want to interview him though.

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